10 things I feel happy being a single. I learn every second. I ve done so much research and I love writing about the black beauty side dat people can not see.

So many people are ready to be kept or tied down with a ball and chain, that I decided to compile a list of all the things I love about being single. Here are 10 reasons to embrace the fact that you are not in a relationship and love your single life.

When you are single you can do what you want, when you want and with whom you want. Being single is all about you. It is a special time to be true to yourself and be a little selfish. “You” is at the crux of embracing your single life. I am going to run down a list of reminders on why being single is not so bad after all.

1. No compromising.

When you are single, you can do whatever it is that you love, without having to compromise for someone else’s needs or desires. Maybe you like fried chicken or you like to eat cookies under the stars in a tent in your backyard. There is nothing you have to give up. You can indulge in your guilty pleasures or just simply be yourself without having to give up any part of your pleasure in order to codify someone else.

2. No explaining or justifying.

Not only do you not have to give up your pleasures, but neither do you have to explain or justify to anyone why it is you like doing them. This is liberating. Be yourself, no ifs ands or buts about it.

3. No guilt.

Guilt is something that we can definitely do without. But, so much of our relationships revolve around guilt. The aformentioned compromising and explaining are often things we do to protect our relationship from it’s demise. We fear the loss. Instead of embracing impermanence and remembering what joys singlehood can bring, we often feel bad and guilty about our “selfish” ways. This leads to self- compromising behaviors.

4. No jealousy or insecurity.

Remember this? Jealousy can come from you or your partner. When you celebrate your singlehood, jealousy and insecurity about other people fall down by the wayside. Who cares anymore? The most important person has become you. The ability to live and let live suddenly becomes within your reach. Goodbye jealousy.

5. Friends.

Partners not only want explanations and compromise, but they also may be jealous of your friends? Perhaps, partners may limit the time you have to spend with friends. In many ways friends are more important than our partners. They are there for us when our relationships hit turbulence. Being single is a great time to nurture your friendships. So, hang out with your most debaucherous friends and feel not guilt about it.

6. Develop your identity.

So often people lose themselves in other people, in their partner or in their relationship. Who are you? What is special about you? Singlehood is when you can really let yourself shine and be who you are meant to be.

7. Have “me time.”

Like I mentioned before, the crux of singlehood is the freedom to do what you want, when you want, how you want, why you want and with whom. There is no one to answer to, explain, justify and compromise for. This independence should be embraced. You want a quiet evening at home or an entire week of solitude. It is all yours. Just say the word. The act of self-care is easy.

8. Pursue your dreams.

Being single affords you the ability to pursue your dreams. Want to travel the world or join a touring circus? Guess what? Being single makes these types of dreams much easier. Single people can do the things that those in relationships cannot. Chart uncharted territory, be a trail blazer or do something that you have never done before. It might be easier to do these things without a ball and chain.

9. Financial independence.

You do not have to ever pay for anyone else. You make your own money. So, spend your money the way you want. No joint bank accounts, no one telling you how to spend your money and no one asking you where your money went.

10. Emotional independence.

This is probably the most liberating piece of all. Partners are not always supportive of our emotions. They take our emotions personally, they don’t understand them or they don’t support what we are feeling. Singles don’t have to explain why they feel happy, sad, angry, tired, moody, crabby or frustrated to anyone. Feel free to feel every emotion you have inside of you and not have to respond to anyone else about them.

Some of these things sound downright selfish. But, the irony of it is that these seemingly selfish concepts might actually benefit our relationships. We might end up feeling better about ourselves in the long run, which in the end is key for long term happiness.

An independent woman first loves doing her own thing, hence the name. When it comes to relationships, dating a woman who’s independent is a different ball game. Not many men can handle an independent woman , some feel overwhelmed by her qualities and may walk out at the end of the day.

An independent woman first loves doing her own thing, hence the name. When it comes to relationships, dating a woman who’s independent is a different ball game.

Not many men can handle an independent woman , some feel overwhelmed by her qualities and may walk out at the end of the day.

But if you think you can handle an independent woman and are willing to have one in your life, here are some top qualities you must possess, according to Lifehack.
1. You shouldn’t feel threatened : Some men feel intimidated and threatened by independent women. You need to understand that her independence doesn’t make you lesser than she is.

2. You should know that her life goals are more than just settling down with a partner: She wants more in life and great ideas on how to achieve that feat would be welcomed from you.

3. You should be there in her time of need: Not like an overbearing father, but as a pillar to lean on, source of encouragement, listening ears and source of good advice.
4. Learn to give her personal space: Everyone loves to have a ‘me’ time. A private time for your woman would make her cherish the times you are together more. Pestering her with calls and messages in her alone time would drive you both apart with time.

5. You should know that your relationship isn’t a show of power: There’s no need to prove you wield power over her, she understands that. Your relationship should be more of a partnership than a power struggle.

6. Communication is key and king: Be an effective communicator, concentrate on the future and don’t dwell on the past. This will help in understanding yourselves better.

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No truer words have ever been written. In addition to this, here’s what I want to say. Dear ladies, if a man shows you he doesn’t care, believe him. He doesn’t care. Now read this deep stuff below which I found online written by a man about wasting your time with a man who doesn’t want to marry you…

The idea that men are clueless allows them to get away with all manner of bad behavior that would have been intolerable just a generation or two ago.

Men know that most women want marriage. Women need to know that many men will do everything in their power to get all the benefits of marriage, except without commitment. While you’re getting exasperated thinking he’s stupid because he spends money on you, he’s running you.

Men understand women on a level that you can never begin to grasp, because it’s from the mindset of a hunter. And a good hunter has an intrinsic understanding of his prey. Women make the mistake of thinking that they are wiser than men. Immoral men understand a crucial component of the female psyche: For most women: Hope springs eternal, so if he plays his cards right, he can string you along for years without proposing.

Most of us know at least one woman who waited for a man to marry her, waited sometimes for a decade or more. She played house with him, took care of him, cooked, cleaned, etc. but he never married her. Finally she ends the relationship and he marries the next woman he dates after only six months or maybe less.

I think we all know a woman like this because it reinforces something we already know: MEN MARRY THE WOMEN THEY WANT TO MARRY. And if you’re not that woman you are not just it. It’s absolutely foolish to play wife for a man who can’t be bothered to actually marry you.

Bottom line is; if you’ve reached the point in your relationship where it’s time for “The Talk” and it hasn’t happened, or he brushes it off when you raise the subject, move on. Why? Because men who want to get married, get married. It’s not that he’s not into marriage, or he’s still dealing with “issues” from a previous relationship, or whatever other folder he puts out there. There’s only one reason a man doesn’t get married: HE DOESN’T WANT TO. At least, NOT TO YOU. Don’t fool yourself.

A man who wants you will be rushing YOU to the altar. Why? Because he’s terrified that you’ll get away from him. A man in love is all too aware that he has a pearl beyond price. Further he knows there is a plethora of other predatory males just waiting to snatch her away. You don’t have to beg him or persuade him or coerce him, trap him with pregnancy or fast for days. The only thing you’ll get for all your trouble is a decimated self-esteem and the knowledge that you wasted your skinny years on a man who didn’t want you in the first place.

Need a little inspiration? Need a quick burst of self motivation? If you are not willing to risk the usual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.” Jim Rohn

Need a little inspiration? Need a quick burst of self motivation?

Here you go:

1. “Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life-think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.” Swami Vivekananda
2. “If you are willing to do more than you are paid to do, eventually you will be paid to do more than you do.” Anonymous
3. “Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” Winston Churchill
4. “Whenever you see a successful person, you only see the public glories, never the private sacrifices to reach them.” Vaibhav Shah
5. “Try not to become a person of success, but rather try to become a person of value.” Albert Einstein
6. “It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” Charles Darwin
7. “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” Eleanor Roosevelt
8. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt
9. “The distance between insanity and genius is measured only by success.” Bruce Feirstein
10. “Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.” John D. Rockefeller
11. “If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.” Albert Einstein
12. “There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed.” Ray Goforth
13. “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” Robert Collier
14. “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear — not absence of fear.” Mark Twain
15. “Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.” Pablo Picasso
16. “Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” Mark Twain
17. “The successful warrior is the average man, with laserlike focus.” Bruce Lee
18. “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” Steve Jobs
19. “Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” Jim Rohn
20. “The No. 1 reason people fail in life is because they listen to their friends, family, and neighbors.” Napoleon Hill
21. “You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it.” Margaret Thatcher
22. “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” Thomas A. Edison
23. “What would you attempt to do if you knew you would not fail?” Robert Schuller
24. “Always bear in mind that your own resolution to success is more important than any other one thing.” Abraham Lincoln
25. “Successful and unsuccessful people do not vary greatly in their abilities. They vary in their desires to reach their potential.” John Maxwell
26. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou
27. “Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they’ve started.” David Allen
28. “Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” Greg Anderson
29. “You never regret being kind.” Nicole Shepherd
30. “Success at the highest level comes down to one question: Can you decide that your happiness can come from someone else’s success?” Bill Walton
31. “Do what you have always done and you’ll get what you have always got.” Sue Knight
32. “Think of what you have rather than of what you lack. Of the things you have, select the best and then reflect how eagerly you would have sought them if you did not have them.” Marcus Aurelius
33. “Happiness is where we find it, but very rarely where we seek it.” J. Petit Senn
34. “To be content means that you realize you contain what you seek.” Alan Cohen
35. “Expecting life to treat you well because you are a good person is like expecting an angry bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.” Shari R. Barr
36. “View your life from your funeral: Looking back at your life experiences, what have you accomplished? What would you have wanted to accomplish but didn’t? What were the happy moments? What were the sad? What would you do again, and what wouldn’t you do?” Victor Frankl
37. “Boredom is the feeling that everything is a waste of time…serenity, that nothing is.” Thomas Szasz
38. “To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart.” Eleanor Roosevelt
39. “The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.” William Arthur Ward
40. “Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others.” Robert Louis Stevenson
41. “The greatest leader is not necessarily the one who does the greatest things. He is the one that gets people to do the greatest things.” Ronald Reagan
42. “Power isn’t control at all-power is strength, and giving that strength to others. A leader isn’t someone who forces others to make him stronger; a leader is someone willing to give his strength to others that they may have the strength to stand on their own.” Beth Revis
43. “Don’t tell people how to do things; tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results.” George S. Patton Jr.
44. “Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.” Dwight D. Eisenhower
45. “Victory has a hundred fathers and defeat is an orphan.” John F. Kennedy
46. “Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.” Peter F. Drucker
47. “Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” Albert Schweitzer
48. “Leaders must be close enough to relate to others, but far enough ahead to motivate them.” John C. Maxwell
49. “The mark of a great man is one who knows when to set aside the important things in order to accomplish the vital ones.” Brandon Sanderson
50. “Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flowcharts. It is about one life influencing another.” John C. Maxwell
51. “You have to be burning with an idea, or a problem, or a wrong that you want to right. If you’re not passionate enough from the start, you’ll never stick it out.” Steve Jobs
52. “A leader … is like a shepherd. He stays behind the flock, letting the most nimble go out ahead, whereupon the others follow, not realizing that all along they are being directed from behind.” Nelson Mandela
53. “Being responsible sometimes means pissing people off.” Colin Powell
54. “Do you know that one of the great problems of our age is that we are governed by people who care more about feelings than they do about thoughts and ideas.” Margaret Thatcher
55. “A leader is a dealer in hope.” Napoleon
56. “The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint to keep from meddling with them while they do it.” Theodore Roosevelt
57. “If you would convince a man that he does wrong, do right. But do not care to convince him. Men will believe what they see. Let them see.” Henry David Thoreau
58. “I cannot trust a man to control others who cannot control himself.” Robert E. Lee
59. “Consensus: the process of abandoning all beliefs, principles, values, and policies in search of something in which no one believes, but to which no one objects; the process of avoiding the very issues that have to be solved, merely because you cannot get agreement on the way ahead. What great cause would have been fought and won under the banner: ‘I stand for consensus?'” Margaret Thatcher
60. “A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don’t necessarily want to go but ought to be.” Rosalynn Carter
61. “There is a difference between being a leader and being a boss. Both are based on authority. A boss demands blind obedience; a leader earns his authority through understanding and trust.” Klaus Balkenhol
62. “You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.” Nancy D. Solomon
63. “In the end, it is important to remember that we cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are.” Max De Pree
64. “A leader isn’t someone who forces others to make him stronger; a leader is someone willing to give his strength to others so that they may have the strength to stand on their own.” Beth Revis
65. “Always remember, Son, the best boss is the one who bosses the least. Whether it’s cattle, or horses, or men, the least government is the best government.” Ralph Moody
66. “If you really want the key to success, start by doing the opposite of what everyone else is doing.” Brad Szollose
67. “Give as few orders as possible,” his father had told him once long ago. “Once you’ve given orders on a subject, you must always give orders on that subject.” Frank Herbert (from Dune)
68. “The art of leadership is saying no, not yes. It is very easy to say yes.” Tony Blair
69. “Wisdom equals knowledge plus courage. You have to not only know what to do and when to do it, but you have to also be brave enough to follow through.” Jarod Kintz
70. “In a battle between two ideas, the best one doesn’t necessarily win. No, the idea that wins is the one with the most fearless heretic behind it.” Seth Godin
71. “If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work, and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea.” Antoine de Saint-Exupery
72. “Remember, teamwork begins by building trust. And the only way to do that is to overcome our need for invulnerability.” Patrick Lencioni
73. “Leadership is an action, not a position.” Donald McGannon
74. “Surround yourself with great people; delegate authority; get out of the way.” Ronald Reagan
75. “I cannot give you a formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure, which is: Try to please everybody.” Herbert Bayard Swope
76. “Show me the man you honor and I will know what kind of man you are.” Thomas John Carlisle
77. “A man always has two reasons for doing anything: a good reason and the real reason.” J.P. Morgan
78. “If you spend your life trying to be good at everything, you will never be great at anything.” Tom Rath
79. “Average leaders raise the bar on themselves; good leaders raise the bar for others; great leaders inspire others to raise their own bar.” Orrin Woodward
80. “Don’t blow off another’s candle for it won’t make yours shine brighter.” Jaachynma N.E. Agu
81. “Whenever you see a successful business, someone once made a courageous decision.” Peter F. Drucker
82. “When you put together deep knowledge about a subject that intensely matters to you, charisma happens. You gain courage to share your passion, and when you do that, folks follow.” Jerry Porras
83. “People buy into the leader before they buy into the vision.” John Maxwell
84. “A good leader is a person who takes a little more than his share of the blame and a little less than his share of the credit.” John Maxwell
85. “A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan executed next week.” George Patton
86. “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” William Arthur Ward
87. “Silent gratitude isn’t very much to anyone.” Gertrude Stein
88. “The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you.” John E. Southard
89. “Keep your eyes open and try to catch people in your company doing something right, then praise them for it.” Tom Hopkins
90. “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” Eleanor Roosevelt
91. “Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered-just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” Barrie Davenport
92. “Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look, how we perform, is truly important to other people.” Andre Dubus
93. “Do it or not. There is no try.” Yoda
94. “Rarely have I seen a situation where doing less than the other guy is a good strategy.” Jimmy Spithill
95. “You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it.” Margaret Thatcher
96. “The best revenge is massive success.” Frank Sinatra
97. “The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.” Ayn Rand
98. “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.” Steve.

Mediocrity will always try to drag excellence down to its level. Don’t trade your superiority for their inferiority.

One way God shows His love for us is by working in the details of our lives. He works with precision timing to impact us in just the right way when we need it most. Often he uses the caring words and prayers of others to make this happen. If you’ll not settle for anything less than your best If you can’t do great big things, do great little things, you will be amazed at what you can accomplish in your lives.Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen, Happiness doesn’t result from what we get, but from what we give God sometimes takes us into troubled waters not to drown us, but to cleanse us.

I had a very rough night last night and I felt defeated and broken. I looked at my phone out of habit and your email had just arrived. I needed to hear everything you said at the exact moment you sent it. Those scriptures are very powerful and I am going to fall back on those in time of worry and doubt. … The Lord used you for my situation, and he made you say all of the things I needed to hear, when I needed to hear it.”

It’s an awesome thing to be empowered by God through prayer, to see Him work with the right words at the right time, and help someone in need.